This is not unusual, after all, many people when on a date, whether online dating or offline are concerned about looking stupid or sounding silly when they meet someone for the very first time. In my sessions I have helped turn a challenging problem into a knockout winner, even for those guys and girls who are painfully shy when talking with a prospective new partner.
Take a few minutes to read, "Want The Secret To Successful Online Dating? Ask the Right Questions First."
Mostly likely by now you have experienced a few online dating sites and even joined one or two and posted your profile. Naturally you considered or followed through on adding your best picture and now the moment to chat with a potential partner has arrived.
So what do you do first? If you follow the steps most often taken, first thing on your agenda would most likely be to figure a way to determine who your best prospect is and who is going to be deleted from your email box.
Naturally you'll need to find out something about the woman you're about to meet online. For example, who is she really? Is there any truth to the details in her profile? Am I going to stumble into a chat with a daddy's girl... or worse, a gold digger? It would be nice if these categories were provided by the dating sites...
Before you go live online with your dating "interviews" you need to find these things out, even though you can't be direct with your questions. Plus, you definitely want to avoid mistakes that would prevent you from impressing this lady should you determine she deserves more of your favorable interest.
Your moments of small talk should allow for a sufficient warm up period so you can get to the real stuff. Let's look at a strategy that allows you to provide her with an easy way to show you who she really is, but without offending her or making your process too transparent.
Get the ball rolling with the following questions:
1. I've made some mistakes in my past with a lady who was important to me. It taught me to be more honest and open. Tell me what you believe are the worse blunders guys make when they date online.
Be sure to focus solely on listening carefully to her answers. You can learn lots of information that will paint a realistic picture of the lady's way of thinking and her candid perspective on what she thinks about men in general.
2. This is only my second experience with online dating. What do you think about dating on the Internet?
Here's where you'll learn about her experiences and hopefully you'll learn some important things that you should avoid.
3. What happened that led to the break up of your most recent relationship?
This is your most important question so take your time and be thoughtful and sensitive when you ask. Listen carefully and observe whether or not she puts all the blame on meddling friends or family. She might also place all the blame on the guy.
If that's the case, you now have your exit visa. Move on... However, should she say the relationship broke up because it was not a good fit for either of them; you've received the golden answer.
Move forward to getting to know her better, however, you should always use caution and temper your desire for a relationship with patience and sensitivity.
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All the best to you,